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Embarrasing revelations

Just rewatched Coyote Ugly, a movie that probably doesn't include me in the target group. I say rewatched, because I saw it first ten years ago while I was still living in Australia. It brings back good memories, and for some odd reason, I find this movie quite charming (even if the charm is almost certainly coldly calculated) and enjoyable. It's clearly designed for the teenage girl (for the story) and is dosed heavily with scantily clad women (so that the boyfriends of the aforementioned teenagers would also pay for the ticket).

But I still like it.

Odd, how that works. Sometimes the strangest things become anchor points in life; points which allow you to ground yourself back into what you are and how you came to be. I'm now living the "busy years" of my life (kids'n'all that), and I do quite often feel lost in life, living for others more than myself. So I want to ground myself in not only the nice things, but also the silly, embarrassing - even strange or odd things of who I am.

My friend, Sanjay Khanna talks about "resilient people", and how they become people that are trusted by others upon times of great change. I find this a fascinating concept, though I am more interested in the process in how these people become resilient: Is it something that people are born with, or can it be learned? On occasion, I look at people like Steve Jobs as resilient persons - no matter how the computing industry changes, people buy Apple because they've learned to trust his taste. Or a great many politicians, who stay there no matter what. People flock to other people and stick with them, no matter what. It's interesting.

Okay, getting a bit rambly.

But really, what I've been slowly learning is that there's an interesting balance between grounding and fluttering around: you need the other to make sense of the other. Go one way too much, and you lose yourself. I can't explain it better than that, especially at fairly late on a Friday night.

Making sense of the quantum froth.