After seeing how incredibly talented my girlfriend was in oriental dancing, I realized that people can have incredible talents within them that they have not yet discovered. Once I realized this, the obvious conclusion is this: Instead of working hard at something you're already good at, it might be more rewarding to try a hundred other things to find the one thing that you can excel in, naturally, without all the hard work. Discovering your talent is more important than working hard to improve yourself in an area where you have no talent. Being lazy and not wanting to work your ass off is a healthy attitude. Just be sure to give yourself enough opportunity to find other, new things!
As for a work-environment with naysayers and "cold blankets": They kill all the enthusiasm because they take the fun out of everything. The only ones enjoying this are cynical old farts. A fate I'm trying hard to avoid.
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PPS: I also have the feeling that help and comment preview doesn't work at all. Do these create popups that my browser is supressing?
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What bugs me is that I know that I am capable of doing cool things. It's just that I can't seem to beat myself to making those things.
Do like me; get a kid (or, to be on the safe side, two...) - At least then you got someone you can "blame" for being... "lazy"... ;-)
Finding a scapegoat was never a problem ;-)
Janne, that sounds just like perfectly normal after-con-low. My feelings also so exactly a day after the con. Dunno, maybe we ARE getting old, or the kids in the con are getting more bright and more outshining. Or this is just illusion because of too little sleep and too much con effort and balancing ourselves against impossible odds: the World Out There.
I'd just get a very simple hobby, preferably simple and physical, and then just do it... repeatedly till you are good in it... Like kendo swordsmanship or snowboarding or... :-) I think there's truth in the biblical saying: Otsasi hiessä sinun on leipäsi syömän. (can't translate, I'm not very biblical person) To have one simple thing to really focus everything usually relaxes the rest of the life and releases some potential hidden.
--Tommi Korhonen, 14-Aug-2006
Well... I wrote the article during the con.
I don't know. I don't want to write this one off as a "yeah, well, everybody gets it". I feel as if I have been presented a choice.
Sound kind of familiar.
The roleplaying allegory is one way to look at it. One has just that much starting potential, and then some experience points (on the average based on time, but of course affected by many things). One can focus on single things and hone them sharp, or learn to be a jack of all trades with some strenghts... I'm definitely the latter kind of person, and I'll just have to swallow never being any achiever in anything... But quite often reaching levels in widespread activities that others look amazed upon. :) Tried most anything? Yupp, that too.
If you really really are weighing yourself again the feel, then I don't think you have much other choice but balance your abilities and time against things you really really want to get done / achieve in. Comparison against (all) the other people is very tough, they represent a hell of wide spectrum, and the most brilliant examples are those narrow specialists... Another gaming related anecdote: in an Internet game you might feel as if you were playing against the world champions, while you as well MIGHT BE! They probably have sat more time in front of the game than you at work... It's not fair comparison. Same happens in Real Life (tm) when you look at the spectacular examples. Well, they are spectacular since they outshine the others, being better, more refined, more focused in that area. Let's take golf... in it you weigh yourself against yourself, and the nature... There you'll face if you are any good (by your standards), not by other peoples standards. But still it's very honest, there are no ways to cheat the nature. Or make things better looking than they are as with people and marketing!
BTW: I usually look up towards you on many things, for the wide view and open intellectual. The very reason I read this blog so often. :-)
--Tommi Korhonen, 15-Aug-2006
Thanks, Tommi. I'm not particularly worth looking upwards to, I'm afraid - unless you mean I'm slightly taller than you ;-)
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